Some couples believe that you should be free to tell your partner absolutely everything while others hold back on things that might affect their relationships later on.
Well, the reality is that it’s better to keep some things to yourself. Details like your personal family drama and minor doubts about your relationship shouldn’t be exposed for everyone to see including your partner.
However, there are some secrets that you should never hide from your partner especially when they could prove damaging to your relationship.
Here are some of those secrets you should stop hiding:
1. Crucial medical information
When you get into a relationship, your medical history matters a lot. In fact, it’s one of the things that people use to decide if they’re willing to have something serious or whether someone’s medical state is too much for them to handle.
You should let your partner know about chronic conditions like asthma because they will be the ones to help you when something happens. Other conditions like HIV/AIDS and STDs such as herpes need to be talked about even before you start dating.
2. Kids you have
People who decided to hide the fact that they had kids from past relationships eventually regret it. It reflects poorly on your character and it’s also neglectful for you to do that as a parent.
If you have children, just mention it and don’t keep those details hidden because the truth will eventually come out one day and it will not end well.
3. Major career plans
Dating or getting married means that your lives and goals merge into one. Your career moves will have an impact on each other so this isn’t something to hide.
For instance, if you know that you’re planning to move to a new country for work or school, let them know early. It’s not fair to just mention it when you’ve already decided and started planning for it, or when you’re on the last stages before relocating.
This is a topic you need to discuss so you can know the way forward before plans begin.
4. Mental health worries
Stories where a wife or husband suddenly commits suicide are very frightening. Psychological problems can remain hidden for a long time until one day something happens.
Worries about anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts or other mental health concerns should be communicated so you can get the help you need.
5. Crucial relationship expectations
Relationships easily break because of mismatched family goals. Some of them might have been inevitable but there are many that would have survived if there was better communication.
An example is when your partner doesn’t want kids but you know you secretly do. Don’t try to say something just to make them happy because they need to know what your real perspective is.